Random thought of the day

Everyone wants to be respected by others, especially by those whom they don't know. So people tend to talk and act very carefully so as to not be too outgoing or seem too uncool, to gain that respect. If everyone feels this way...why don't we all just put down our defenses and be who we really are? The people with whom we are the closest are those whom we typically don't put up a front or that cool, nonchalant act I see people pulling all the time. Why don't we all just skip that first step and be ourselves from the start?